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  • Writer's pictureSum Yuet Lee

๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ’˜ How Many Dates A Week Is Too Many or Too Little?

Navigating the world of dating is akin to solving a riddle โ€“ it's exciting, confusing, and occasionally perplexing. Once you've found someone you enjoy spending time with, deciphering the right frequency of meet-ups can leave you scratching your head.

Exactly how many times is too many, or too little, and WHAT number is just right? (We sound like Goldilocks here, but it's a valid question.)

The Perils of Overcommitment ๐Ÿ’‘๐Ÿ’”

While the desire to spend every waking hour together is natural, you need to be careful about overexcitement. Too much time too soon might lead one partner to pump the relationship brakes, causing a sudden break-off! You don't wanna be known as that one parasitic ex-girlfriend amongst his friend group, but hey, at least you aren't like Fry from Futurama who had his head sewn onto Amy just when he felt that they were meeting too much.

The Headaches of Undercommitment

Now, looking at the other extreme, undercommitment in a budding romance can be a tricky waltz, often leaving partners on a dance floor filled with uncertainty. Meeting too infrequently can lead to a sense of disconnection and hinder the natural flow of the relationship. It's like attempting a dance with missed steps, making it challenging to establish a rhythm and truly sync with your partner!

The Quest for Balance: Quality vs. Quantity ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ”

In the euphoria of great company and laughter, it's tempting to immerse yourself entirely in the dating bubble. But is that the healthiest approach? While a slower pace may suit some, finding the right balance ensures that the dance of romance remains harmonious and doesn't fizzle out before the connection hits its crescendo. On the other hand, a fast-paced tango is the key to winning some hearts, but we doubt you'll be a lifelong dance partner if you both end up sprawled on the dance floor.

Two Dates a Week: The Winning Formula ๐ŸŽ‰โœจ

So, after all this, what's the key? The answer is simpler than you think: a Goldilocks solution. Scott Carroll, psychiatrist and author of Donโ€™t Settle: How to Marry the Man You Were Meant For suggests a rule: twice a week, where you meet at least once during the week and share another night over the weekend. Carroll's advice to Bravo TV leans toward structure, emphasising regular interactions to keep the relationship flowing. Yet, he acknowledges the importance of gut instinct. Relationships, after all, are a dance of emotions and personal preferences. Trust your instincts, find your rhythm, and let the dating adventure unfold naturally!

Final Notes

In the intricate dance of modern dating, finding the perfect rhythm can be as elusive as the right partner. While there's no one-size-fits-all rulebook, the notion of two dates a week emerges as a harmonious tune in the symphony of relationships. So, whether you're swaying to a slow ballad or grooving to an upbeat tempo, the sweet spot of two dates a week might just be the melody that keeps your relationship dancing to the right beat. Good luck!๐ŸŽถ๐Ÿ’‘

with Love,

The Dateideas Team

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