In the epic saga of love, there are these sneaky assassins waiting to trip you up – a bit like Taylor Swift's 'The Great War', where she realises that the only war in her relationship that's been waging is internal, not external.
These relationship killers, like echoes and re-emergence of past hurts, can easily turn harmless arguments and habits into reality, into a full-blown battle, or even break ups! But, don't worry, we've got a map to this minefield to help you navigate the landmines of 'relationship don'ts'.
Textual Warfare 💬💔
Okay, seriously, fighting over text? That's like playing with 🔥🔥🔥! Those words can get twisted, and the next thing you know, your relationship is in flames. If it's something touchy, save it for a face-to-face chat to avoid turning your love into a textual battlefield. Also, if someone sent me something like this, I'm just gonna hit them with the ole 'I ain't reading all that. I'm happy for u tho. Or sorry that happened.'
Undercover Operations 🕵🏻♂️👀
We know that there are times where you have that inner voice egging you on to take a peek at your partner’s phone. Well… RESIST IT! That whole "cracking the code to your partner's heart" is not done by snooping around your partner’s phone. Sit down, talk it out and build that trust with them – open hearts and open minds, no detective work needed!
The Cold War of Stonewalling ❄️🤐
Ever heard of the silent treatment? It's like creating an emotional ice age. Communication goes frosty, and suddenly, you're shivering in the cold. Melt that icy barrier by talking it out and healthily express how you feel without demeaning your partner. Warmth triumphs frostiness any day!
Dangerous Battlefront Comparisons 👫😱
Pitting your relationship against others? Not a strategic move. Seriously, we're all face-palming the second you say "Why can't you be more like ___?" Your love story is a unique battlefront. Trying to outmanoeuvre others is like, well, blindly running into an active minefield -- sayonara, soldier! It's best to stay in your lane, unless you're planning to lose a limb along the way.
Morse Coding Misinterpretations 🤯🚫
Thinking you're a mind reader? Newsflash: You're not, and your partner isn't either! Assuming you know what your partner is thinking, and vice versa can lead to epic fails. Save yourself from misinterpreting those mental Morse code signals. Trust us, we've seen too many comrades fall victim to this. Instead, open up to your partner with each other’s needs and wants, and collaboratively find the middle ground.
The 'Hero/Winner' Mentality 🏆😠
Securing a love victory might feel like a conquest, but in reality, it's more like a solo mission. You may have won the battle, but in the war, if you keep on seeing arguments as a 'lose/win', you're losing your partner. Remember, it's not a duel between you two; it's both of you against whatever love warfare life throws your way. Winning together is the true triumph.
Final Notes 🪖
The dating scene might be impeded with tricky obstacles, however, with strong emotional independence, we will be able to recognise our own values and win these internal wars. To gain deeper insights into yourself and understand your partner better, ImPossible Psychological Services is dedicated to help individuals and couples navigate emotional challenges, foster positive growth, and improve their relationship dynamics. Best of luck, warriors, and may your love story become a legend for future generations! 🚀💘
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The Dateideas Team